who said crying makes you weak

Hey Revolutionists,
I had to write on this topic about crying because I feel like people take it as a sign of weakness if you cry but I look at it from a different perspective. I think my tears always symbolize the washing away of something out my life or bringing something into my life. You know its something like the waves of the ocean, you see it coming into shore like its bringing something but then it kind of splashes right back out. Well the point of it all is dont be afraid to shed a few tears ya know. I felt like over the past two years I have cried so much I felt that one day my eyes were going to be like no Bianca there aren't anymore tears left. I use to just break down and cry like everywhere, in the shower, before i went to sleep, watching a movie. One time I went to the fridge and there wasnt any milk left and i cried, lol it really got that bad.

If you are in a situation where you find yourself crying more than laughing, it is really time for a change. I found myself in a situation where I didnt even know what it meant to be happy. Men would want to talk to me and they were honest to God good men, I would find myself being annoyed that they really cared about my well being and I would cut them off. I was so use to being with a bad man, that I didnt even know how to accept a good one.

I find that is a problem with a lot of women these days, they become so accustomed to bad treatment that when they finally have someone willing to treat them right they push them away. Well I am still on this journey to self discovery, I am honest enough to say that I do not know what a good man looks like but I am willing to accept him with open arms if he does happen to come along.

So I left that bad situation and I am not saying that I am completely over him because this blog would be pointless if I was. I allow myself to cry for about 30 seconds, I think about how far I have came and the tears stop flowing and I continue about my day. Before I use to cry for days, then hours, then it went to mins. Now I only allow a few seconds, I pick myself up and I push through it.
i dont regret ever being with him because it was a valuable lesson you know, i dont think my life would have been the same without it.

What I am saying, if you are in a situation that is similar just know that the recovery process is no easy task. If you see the signs early on please leave, its not worth having your heart torn apart because the thing is with hearts, you can try to put them back together again but they will never be quite the same

A message to the men out there, if you see that you are making someone cry its better to leave her now than to lead her on because in the end she will never be the same again.

I love you guys stay strong always think of your tears as waves, somethingg entering and then leaving your lives...Please join me on this journey to self discovery, helping women one broken heart at a time.